Anonymous asked: Hello this is a question more so for the Delta Sigma Thera Sorority, Inc. staff . When a girl pledges your sorority at my school they can only wear black, grey and tan. Which is self explanatory however, their hair also cannot be professionally done. When said "professionally done" does this mean no weave or braids you just get to wear your natural? Or is all that allowed but you can't go to a certified hairdresser. Meaning your cousin can do it but not the weave shop?
I really want this question to be a joke. Also, are you asking this before you make fun of someone? Or are you going to offer your hair care services to pledges?
You do realize you are asking about an illegal, underground process? Officially, that’s hazing. And YOU KNOW we don’t do or condone that sort of thing…
If you are currently pledging and you have this question, you need to ask your big sister who told you the rule in the first place.
If you are considering pledging, but you want to make sure your style can be preserved throughout the process, you need to reconsider your motives. Or ask that in the interview.
I am a firm believer in asking forgiveness rather than permission. What’s the worst they can do? Beat you to death?
Just tell them girls, you gettin’ your hair did! And if they got a problem with it, tell them you got nationals on speed dial. Plus, you’re supporting the national program of Financial Fortitude by getting your hair done by a local business.
Best of luck!
- Rob the Boss
P.S. I am not a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
Anonymous asked: Hey guys, so I'm really thinking about joining a Divine Nine sorority. However, I am already apart of a service frat on my campus (we do all the same things as divine nine does anyways) would it be a problem for me to be apart of both organizations? (Side note my frat is co-ed)
So let me go ahead and say this. I am prepared for the onslaught of APO hate.
I am a brother of Alpha Phi Omega. We should not be doing the same things that Divine Nine organizations do. We HAVE to stop emulating those traditions that we think are cool or that we see as standard for our campuses. We have to rise above being like everybody else and start having our own standard.
If you do all the same things a D9 org does, then hell yes you will be scrutinized harder.
Now to you, D9 Greeks:
Get a grip. You do not have a patent on your traditions. It’s not that deep. Yes, people outside of the NPHC step, stroll, pledge, etc. Some of those organizations have been doing those things longer than you have been alive. Mind your own business.
To the original poster: You might have a problem. But be yourself and do all the same things we tell other prospects. If they like you, you will know it.
Anonymous asked: I'm pursuing an organization but am not sure if they are having a line for the Spring '14 semester. I have heard rumors that they're not but have not been discouraged. Is it okay to ask current members of the org?
There’s no need to ask. In fact, it’s considered rude to ask.
Just be ready at all times.
Anonymous asked: My school doesn't have a chapter of the org I want to join. I have been trying for the past 2 years to bring the org back but officials of the org keep saying there are"issues." There are city-wide chapters close to me, but they all appear to just be groups of colleges. Do you think still will still take members of other 4 year institutions, assuming I meet all the pre-reqs? (I'm still going to email them and all that, but i just wanted a quick opinion while I'm getting all this together.)
It’s possible and you should definitely try! Here’s a ten year old story which might give you some hope.
When I was a first-year grad student at a cross-town college (American) and my friend was a senior at my alma mater (Georgetown), we began our pursuits. As you know, I went to a school which only had city-wide chapters and did not recognize Greek life. Anyway, I was going grad but she had to figure out how to become a member of XYZ since there had never been any members on campus and we were uncertain if there was a city-wide chapter or not.
She sent an email to the regional contact, who told her she needed to contact the local graduate chapter, who told her she could pledge as an associate member to the grad chapter.
Meanwhile, I had made contact with the XYZs on my campus and asked if they were city-wide. They said yes, and that my friend would come through them.
Conflicting messages! Both official! So what was she to do?
She went to events for the grad chapter as well as the undergrad chapter! I was pushing for her to go undergrad. She was attending their events and seemed to be well liked. But then she had a personal tragedy happen back home which briefly interrupted her pursuit for a few weeks.
The undergrad chapter went on without her, but when she got back in the game, the grad chapter was still in play. Long story short, she crossed as an associate member of the grad chapter and then transitioned to full member of the grad chapter upon her graduation.
So what was correct? And what went wrong that the sorority didn’t know the proper process?
She was supposed to cross with the undergrads because Georgetown was listed on that chapter’s charter. But nobody knew that except that chapter and their sponsoring grad chapter.
Meanwhile, the regional person was a member of one of the other graduate chapters in the city and thought that Georgetown wasn’t on anyone’s charter. That chapter sponsored schools which were not the city-wide chapter’s charter, so she was like “Well, let’s just scoot her on in how we would girls from these other schools.”
Although she should have gone one way, I do think that the way she came in was best for everyone all around.
My point? You never know what the hell is gonna happen, but be ready for it to happen!
Anonymous asked: Wow, Uncle Rashid is kinda cute <3 Much love to you all!
Anonymous asked: I'm just crossed into Delta land and my best friend didn't make line. It's so weird because me and her have wanted this for a long time. We all have the same classes with my other line sisters and I know she feels awkward. What should i do?
Continue to be her friend. Make time for her outside the Sorority. Have an honest conversation with her about your friendship. Sometimes being fresh in the organization takes up ALLLLL your time, so let her know you may not be around all the time. Get her on the next line. Then haze the shit out of her. :-D
Alternatively, you COULD stop talking to her except when you have to, and smile in her face and talk shit about her when she’s not around. She’s, CLEARLY, not good enough for you now that you have your sorors!
- Rob the Boss
Anonymous asked: Hi. I'm in a sticky situation. I'm good friends with an active member of the sorority I wish to join(graduate). She always asks me to help with sorority and non sorority related tasks. I helped in the past because we are friends. Recently her chapter had intake and she invited someone else. She still asks me to help with things as before. I still help her out, but not with sorority related tasks because I think the person she invited should be doing that. I feel bad, am I being a bad friend :(
Did you tell your friend that you are absolutely interested in her sorority?
If you did tell her and she chose not to sponsor you AND she never gave you any explanation, then I’m not sure she’s your friend. She definitely doesn’t seem to take an interest in your interest.
You are right to not do sorority tasks for her. Her neo should be doing that.
You definitely need to have a conversation with her, though. She wasn’t obligated to sponsor you, but maybe she can tell you what you could do to be more attractive to the chapter.
Anonymous asked: What age is too old to pursue membership in an undergrad chapter of a sorority?
There is no cutoff age. More here.
Anonymous asked: There is a city-wide chapter of the sorority I am very interested in joining, but my school has a bunch of weird liability issues with allowing students to join city-wide chapters. I've info meetings/events of this chapter, so they know who I am. I just won't be able to partake in the intake process if invited. There's at least 10 girls at my school who are also interested in this org. I wondering if it would be possible to start a new chapter on campus? And if so, who would I contact? Thanks.
Well hello there!
Correct me if I am wrong: It sounds like your [private?] college recognizes Greek life but discourages students from participating in city-wide chapters, right? My primary experience is with a school that doesn’t recognize Greek life and doesn’t care what you do off campus, but I will still try to respond based on common sense.
I presume you attend a private college because I can’t imagine a public school dictating that you couldn’t join an organization off campus.
Anyway, here is what I would do:
First, read your student handbook and figure out what the official rules are. Chances are, both the rules on what you can do off campus and how to bring a new organization to campus are already written down.
Then set up a meeting with someone in the office of Greek Life and talk to them about your options. They will be able to explain the expansion process from their perspective and how long it might take.
If your campus is actually interested in bringing on an NPHC organization, it is very important that they take the lead on expansion. National Headquarters receive dozens of membership inquiries from random people. But if they receive communication from the Greek Life coordinator saying that the campus is open for expansion and has interested women, they will take it more seriously.
You could also reach out yourself if you had no other choice.
After that, it’s really up to the sorority whether they want to expand. There might very well be good reasons that the sorority is not already there.
That’s what I’d do. Good luck and let us know what you decide!
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